Positively Ashley http://www.positivelyashley.co.uk Mon, 22 May 2017 20:32:05 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.7.5 Why is it hard for people to just be nice? http://www.positivelyashley.co.uk/hard-people-just-nice/ http://www.positivelyashley.co.uk/hard-people-just-nice/#respond Mon, 22 May 2017 20:27:20 +0000 http://www.positivelyashley.co.uk/?p=290 Do you know what’s really getting my goat lately – People. I mean WHY are we so bitchy?! I’ll admit I’ve been part of group chats and sometimes sucked into ranting when someone has miffed me off in the past, and do you know what, it didn’t make me feel ANY better. Infact, it’s a…

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Do you know what’s really getting my goat lately – People. I mean WHY are we so bitchy?!

I’ll admit I’ve been part of group chats and sometimes sucked into ranting when someone has miffed me off in the past, and do you know what, it didn’t make me feel ANY better. Infact, it’s a downward spiral into feeling bitter and annoyed at everything.

I am doing this Make Up Artist course and today I walked into the toilet where all three cubicles were occupied by fellow students on the course. They were all having a conversation and they were openly slagging me off. Do you want to know why??? Because I asked too many questions, questions they deemed “daft” questions. If this was a couple of months when I was in the worst of my post natal anxiety, this would have sent me under. I would 100% of quit my course. Luckily, I sought help. I am 90% of the time pretty okay and today it didn’t make the slightest bit of difference to me. Okay, well maybe I was a little shorter in the afternoon with people, especially as when they walked out of the cubicile  and saw me there they knew I heard them. AWKS! So was trying EXTRA hard to be nice in the afternoon.  Sorry Pals, that ship has well and truly sailed. 

Why am I blogging about this if it’s insignificant to me… Well because you don’t know what people are going through at home, you don’t know whats happening in peoples head and how snide remarks can affect them. You don’t have to like everybody, but at least be adults about it  and be civil. I mean Christ, I’m 31 – I’m far too old for schoolyard bitchiness / bullying. If you are going to slag me off, stick to a group chat where you won’t have to pretend to be nice after an awkward encounter when you exit a cubicle…

Do you think it’s too far saying it’s bullying? Well as a mother I know if my little girl ever came home and said she’d heard the things that was being said it would make me want to… well shall we say speak to the headteacher (and pretend I was just about to write anything violent)

So I guess, just be nice. You don’t have to like someone to be nice. It’s called being an adult, pulling up your big girl panties and just getting on with the fact you have to be in contact with this person.

Don’t be a dick…  

On a side note, I then went on to do some make up, and I was pretty pleased with it. So, all in all not a bad day.

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It’s okay not to be okay http://www.positivelyashley.co.uk/okay-not-okay/ Tue, 21 Mar 2017 17:15:11 +0000 http://www.positivelyashley.co.uk/?p=282 So, this is potentially the hardest post I have ever had to write. But this week I have had to admit I am not okay. A little history lesson for those of you who may not have known me for long. I have a bit of a history with depression / anxiety. When I was…

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So, this is potentially the hardest post I have ever had to write. But this week I have had to admit I am not okay.

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A little history lesson for those of you who may not have known me for long. I have a bit of a history with depression / anxiety. When I was in a toxic relationship I was deemed clinically depressed. I had CBT therapy which personally did not help me and I also had medication. I took whatever the doctor said no questions asked. Until I ended up in hospital with a damaged nerve in my head. I had to take so many pills I used to put them in a shot glass. Pills to stop side effects from other pills, pills for pain, pills for depression, pills because all of the other pills would destroy my insides. One day I just stopped. Enough was enough. No more drug concoction. I am by no means suggesting that anybody do this, it’s just what I did. I made drastic changes in my life and worked a lot on self development.

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Now, don’t get me wrong life wasn’t all sunshine and unicorn glitter, I had bad days. But I always felt I could get them under control.

Then, my dads partner passed away. This triggered something in me where my mental health again went out of the window. Panic attacks. They would happen in the street, They would wake me up from sleeping. All of a sudden I couldn’t breathe. I remember after a particularly long day of having to go to one hospital for me, and then another hospital appointment for my partner we came home and went to the chip shop. I was feeling quite happy weirdly and all of a sudden I felt like I was having a heart attack. My chest tightened and I just thought ‘this is it’. An ambulance came and took me to A&E and that where they said it was all anxiety related. They talked me through mind detachment techniques for the panic attacks and again I felt like I could cope with things on my own.

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Recently things have been bad again. I almost threw my relationship away rather than admit I had an issue. And do you know why – Because I was worried if I told anybody I would be deemed an unfit mother and have my baby taken away from me. I’ve heard lots of things about post natal depression / anxiety and always presumed it was a feeling of detachment from your child – Which for me couldn’t be further from the truth. I can’t bear the thought of not being with my child. I walk through the centre of Manchester and envision somebody taking her from me. Literally just reaching in the pram and stealing her. I create scenarios in my head that haven’t even happened and I worry. Oh boy do I worry. If she cries too much I am worried she is ill, if she goes off her food a little I am a bad mother and there must be something wrong.  There has been some family fall outs which has resulted in Pickle not meeting some members of her family – Where I would have usually just shrugged this off, this left me literally sobbing for my girl on my birthday, I worked myself up to a point I felt like more members of my partners didn’t like me (With no actual evidence. This is just how it built up) and this then also filtered into life away from my baby. I am doing a nail course and all of a sudden I felt like I didn’t belong. Like this group of girls merely tolerated me being around. And would much prefer it if I quit. I’m not spilling this for sympathy I am just explaining how things have escalated by just not admitting I needed help.  Me and my partner briefly split up and when we spoke I was forced to admit how I had been feeling. It was a choice of telling him or still not admitting it and being a single mother. It still took a while however, It wasn’t until it was time for her first trip to her dads and not having her around that really took the wind out of me.  Was I really going to be so selfish and have my child split between two parents rather than tell the person I was going to marry what was happening in my head.

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Once I opened up once, I found it easier to tell people. I spoke to a group of ladies I met when I joined a pregnancy group. We was all due around the same time of the year and we have all become really quite close. I asked questions and found that it’s so common to feel the way I was feeling. One of the biggest misconceptions is that PND is just feeling like you don’t connect with your child, or that you merely have ‘The baby blues’. It can be that you just feel you are doing it all wrong. Most of the ladies I spoke to said that opening up to their partner was a huge help, although maybe some extra support for night feeds would help more. Tiredness can have a huge impact. I asked a question on what their biggest peice of advice would be and what I personally found invaluable was to be open with your friends and family. Getting help with the mundane things from friends and family will help and also you need to do things for you. It’s okay to go out and let grandparents look after your child. Give yourself a chance to miss your baby and don’t dwell on the life you had before your baby came along. Yes money was probably better, and you had more freedom. Yes you could decide at 8pm to go to the cinema and be there by 8.30. It’s okay to miss it at times but try and focus on this new exciting things you can do with this little human.  I’ve been really lucky with Pickles sleeping but another one from the ladies that I’m sure others will find invaluable is the sleep deprivation does get better.

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So, there we have it. I’ve opened up for the whole world. Yes I have post natal anxiety. No, I am not ashamed of it anymore. Admitting this doesn’t make me weak – Acknowledging I need the help actually makes me strong.

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Dear Lillie #1 http://www.positivelyashley.co.uk/lettertolilliepart1/ Fri, 10 Mar 2017 21:57:16 +0000 http://www.positivelyashley.co.uk/?p=257 Dear Lillie, Wow, it’s been a long time coming this letter. When I was pregnant I wanted to keep a record on this blog of pregnancy week by week and then update on every single thing you did, but what actually happened was I got very poorly in pregnancy and then you are actually a…

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Dear Lillie,

Wow, it’s been a long time coming this letter. When I was pregnant I wanted to keep a record on this blog of pregnancy week by week and then update on every single thing you did, but what actually happened was I got very poorly in pregnancy and then you are actually a little bit of a hurricane now you are here.

You came into this world with the darkest hair, the most beautiful face and eyes that seem to say you’ve done this before. You knew how to feed straight away. The instinct was strong in you. But you wasn’t very well either. You had an infection and Jaundice so we spent our first days together in hospital. You had to have medications and be under an intense light. It was so hard not being able to cuddle for as long as I wanted. I craved you close to me. But I knew it was for your own good.

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When we got home we didn’t rest like Mummy was told to – I wanted to show you off! And I also wanted to get you as much natural light as possible to keep that Jaundice at bay. You was a brilliant baby. You slept very well only waking every 4 hours for a feed. I loved those newborn cuddles. I loved our little family unit.

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You grew quickly. You was staying awake longer each day – You smiled after a few weeks. At first this was in your sleep. I really wish I knew what you dreamed about. Whatever it was it made you happy. I would do anything for that gummy grin. 14724467_1255858921132507_3828378031580500494_n

 

We fell into the top up trap. I wanted to breastfeed you exclusively but you was a very hungry baby (probably because we had to top you up when you had your jaundice treatment) I was too shy to feed in public and pretty soon we was just breastfeeding for your night feed. When you started to sleep through my milk went too. At first I was sad about this, but you was thriving every single day.

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I always remember being at Nanna Paulines, and she asked you “Where’s your Mammy” whilst swinging you round to me. When I said “Boo” you giggled. It came right from your belly. It was such an amazing sound that I cried. You laugh all of the time Pickle – You are such a happy little soul. Don’t ever lose that baby girl.

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The world has thrown some trials to me and your daddy – we have had little tiffs. We have made some wrong choices and at one point we thought one of those choices was going to ruin your first Christmas. This really upset me as Christmas has always been such a magical time and this one was supposed to be the most magical. And in the end it was. As I realised it didn’t matter what Santa and Mummy and Daddy put under the tree for you, being with you at Christmas was more magical than I could have ever dreamed of.

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You started eating food earlier than some people felt you should. But you knew what you was doing. You let me know you was ready and I trusted you. I am literally in awe of you everytime you try something new. Your face when you discover new flavours and textures. I love being part of that journey with you.

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You’re such a funny little girl. You pout, you make funny noises. You have the biggest smile and your daddy always say you look at us full of love. I hope he’s right. I will always try my best for you, as you are quite literally the centre of my universe right now. My whole world revolves around you, and you only.

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You’re almost 7 months old now. You eat lots of different foods, You smile all of the time (Unless you’re hungry. I think you get that from me!). You have two little teeth and you lost a lot of your dark hair, instead you have this kind of dark blonde / light brown hair with a few long straggles I cannot bear to chop off! You roll over and shuffle backwards. Not quite a crawl but you are definately on your way. I can see that little independant streak in you I have. You want to hold your bottle, you want to move around. But at the end of the day, you still need your mummy cuddles, and thats fine by me!

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Love you my little Pickle. xXx

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My body, Your body, EVERY bloody body! http://www.positivelyashley.co.uk/my-body-your-body-every-bloody-body/ Fri, 11 Nov 2016 22:06:34 +0000 http://www.positivelyashley.co.uk/?p=243 I am thirty years old, and do you know what I find pretty sad, is that in my whole 30 years I don’t think I have ever been happy with my body. For as far back as I can remember I have always been conscious of being fat. When I was younger people used to…

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I am thirty years old, and do you know what I find pretty sad, is that in my whole 30 years I don’t think I have ever been happy with my body.

For as far back as I can remember I have always been conscious of being fat. When I was younger people used to say “It’s just puppy fat, it will go when you grow up”

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Well, I grew and grew and the fat didn’t go. Don’t get me wrong, that was probably down to rubbish eating practices. Things such as skipping breakfasts, takeaways because I’d starved all day so binged in the night. I also have PCOS so that makes it incredibly hard to lose weight (yet exceptionally easy to gain it)

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However. For the first time in 30 years I can say I am happy with my body. Is it suddenly comparable to Michelle Lewin… Absolutely not. I’m still overweight, I still jiggle a bit too much but this body brought a life into this world. This body was told it was broken, and couldn’t do it. But it did. Against the odds. I am proud of my stretchmark’s, they are a reminder of the times my daughter lived in my tummy and we used to have secret kick club.

Don’t get me wrong, I will still be working to lose weight but I want to do this for my health, not my body image. As far as I am concerned I am a bloody Warrior and from now on I will not bash my bod, I will be proud… because when it was told it couldn’t… it proved the medics wrong!!

20161016_172258So ladies (And Gent’s)… Don’t waste your life hating your body. There are so much worse things you can be than a little overweight. Aim to improve health, not to lose weight. Don’t wish you was smaller, taller, slimmer or heavier. Cherish your body, it’s the only one you get.

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The biggest day of my life… http://www.positivelyashley.co.uk/tales-of-birth/ http://www.positivelyashley.co.uk/tales-of-birth/#comments Wed, 12 Oct 2016 20:07:59 +0000 http://www.positivelyashley.co.uk/?p=233 So, I did it. I had a baby! I still can’t quite believe it at times. Me, the girl who was never going to be able to have a baby… I’m now a Mum. Insane!! So let’s discuss what happened. In the pregnancy I developed Gestational Diabetes and as I was on metaformin for it,…

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So, I did it. I had a baby! I still can’t quite believe it at times. Me, the girl who was never going to be able to have a baby… I’m now a Mum. Insane!!

So let’s discuss what happened. In the pregnancy I developed Gestational Diabetes and as I was on metaformin for it, this meant I would not be allowed to go over 38 weeks. So there was a recommended induction date of the 16th August suggested. Now, as you may recall, I’ve spent a lot of time in hospital during pregnancy so I have seen how they work. A pessary is given, and given 24 hours to work… and then if that doesn’t work you get another one… and then it would go to them popping my waters… 72 hours in total. This would have led me to the 19th August which is the same date my partner lost a child in 2009 so naturally I was rather anxious about this. Thankfully on one of my last appointments the consultant was really understanding about this and brought the date forward to the 14th August.

On the morning of the induction I had managed about 3 hours sleep the night before. I was so excited and petrified all at the same time. What should I expect? How long would it take? Would I be meeting my baby girl on that day. I woke up, and did my hair and make-up (like, it was going to last through labour!)

At 11.15am I was given my pessary, and by 11.45am the contractions had started. When the midwife inserted it, she said I was already 2cm dilated – Baby was coming anyway! I tried to do lots of walking, I really wanted to meet my baby girl. Contractions are categorically horrible, but it’s strange because as much as you are uncomfortable, you are also excited as each pain is one step closer to meeting the baby you have carried for the past 8-9 months.

At 10pm I was checked again and I was still only 2cm dilated. I was so upset by this – and drained. Contractions are also exhausting. Allan went home and I was alone. I was given some painkillers to try and get some sleep. I dozed off at 12.30am. At 1.50am I woke up with the worst pain I’d had all day. I went to the toilet and noticed my pessary had come out. I called for the midwife when I returned to my bed and as I lay down for her to insert the pessary back my waters went. I was told to phone Allan and she was going to contact the delivery suite. THIS WAS IT…. SHE WAS COMING.

Allan got there shortly afterwards, and the midwife checked me over again and I was 3cm dilated. Allan started packing up everything from around my bed as he bent down to get my shoes his e-cigarette fell out of his pocket and smashed everywhere. The one night he needed it the most! When the midwife from the delivery suite come to get me Allan phoned my mum who came to meet us there.

I was asking for an epidural, I say asking at this point I was begging but I was told I was now 8cm dilated and because of how quickly I had progressed I couldn’t have anything other than gas and air.. which I didn’t want. I quickly went from 8 to 9 and a half cm… but I seemed to stick there. All of my contractions were in my back so they stuck a monitor on her head. It was at this point I was told we was back to back – which is why labour was difficult.

After hours and hours of pushing a team of doctors seemed to appear from nowhere. They told me they had probably left me too long pushing and they was going to give me some assistance. I felt really guilty as Allan had never seen a natural birth but I just wanted a C-Section at this point but they told me it was going to be a drip, which gave me constant contractions. I don’t know what happened but the threat of that drip seemed to make me determined to push her out. I had a contraction where she turned the right way round, the next contraction her head came out (and both Allan and my mum cried) and then one final push and she was here. I had a baby in my arms. It was so surreal. I wasn’t crying, I didn’t feel this amazing rush of love… I was just numb. I looked down at this beautiful little girl who was showing off her lungs and I was dumbstruck. Did I really make this little girl. Was she actually mine. My mum got on the phone to my little sister and that’s when it hit me – I just cried and cried. I am finally a mummy.

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Maternity Leave…. http://www.positivelyashley.co.uk/maternity-leave/ Fri, 29 Jul 2016 21:52:55 +0000 http://www.positivelyashley.co.uk/?p=223 So today was a huge milestone in this pregnancy, I finished work for Maternity Leave. People have been asking me all day if I’m excited or glad to be leaving and honestly… no I don’t think I am.  Don’t get me wrong.  I can’t wait to be a mum and have a little human to…

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So today was a huge milestone in this pregnancy, I finished work for Maternity Leave. People have been asking me all day if I’m excited or glad to be leaving and honestly… no I don’t think I am. 

Don’t get me wrong.  I can’t wait to be a mum and have a little human to care for and love, but I’m also freaking out about the impending eviction! 

Also… what if I’m crap at this whole mum business. You can’t just turn round half way through and think whoops..  I screwed up.  Let’s send this baby back.  

Anyway.  Back to my last day, my whole team normally all works in an office together on the ground floor of our building, but we had a power cut on our floor yesterday so we’ve been dotted around and split up. It was a bit rubbish not having around but they still managed to decorate my borrowed desk for when I got into the office.  

I was then suprised with a buffet at the desk which was really nice.  Then this afternoon they took me back to our dark little office and threw me a baby shower, it was so lovely.  Pin the dummy on the baby… and a very popular (yet really really grim) game of guess the baby food flavour.  At the very least it’s persuaded me that baby led weaning is the way forward for my little pudding. 

On our team there is a bit of a joke about how our team song is the Pina Colada song. I’ve been saying all week how I’m probably going to miss it for 9 months.  So as part of the gifts our little girl was bought a Pina Colada dress. I absolutely adore it! 

So that’s the end of that.  I’m going to miss everyone so much but it just means the next exciting chapter is closer than ever.  Scary, yet super exciting.  

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Raspberry Leaf Tea http://www.positivelyashley.co.uk/raspberry-leaf-tea/ Tue, 19 Jul 2016 18:58:06 +0000 http://www.positivelyashley.co.uk/?p=216 So I am getting to that point in pregnancy where all I can think about is…. THE BIRTH. Holy Cow… I somehow have to expel a tiny human out of my body. And I am FREAKING OUT! I am a member of this pregnancy group on social media which has lots of women all due…

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So I am getting to that point in pregnancy where all I can think about is…. THE BIRTH. Holy Cow… I somehow have to expel a tiny human out of my body. And I am FREAKING OUT!

I am a member of this pregnancy group on social media which has lots of women all due around the same time as me, and some of them have had children before. I have found this group invaluable in pregnancy, keeping me entertained and informing me of things I would never have even dreamed of.

Someone recently mentioned how Raspberry Leaf Tea and how it is supposed to make delivery easier by strengthening the uterus wall. Apparently this shortens the whole “Pushing” stage. Anything that is rumoured to make giving birth easier is good by me!  So I decided to have a good old nosey online at some of the benefits of it to see just how helpful it can be.

In pregnancy:

  • Should start to take from 32 weeks onwards (Although some sites do say that taking earlier on can help to make a pregnancy more viable and prevent miscarriage) This gives the tea a chance to build up in your body so you get the full benefits. You should start on one cup a day, and increase to 2-3 after a few weeks.
  • Also considered to help a mothers milk come in – Handy if you are planning on breastfeeding your bambino
  • Thought to reduce post delivery bleeding and help you to reduce back to your pre-pregnancy size quicker than usual.

Have you noticed I have used words like ‘considered’ and ‘thought to’ – That’s because there is no actual scientific evidence of any of the above. Just mothers testimonials. It is also said that it should be avoided if you are overdue as the stronger contractions may cause distress to the baby, or if you are scheduled to have a C-Section. I’d always recommend speaking to your midwife if you have any concerns before taking the tea.

It’s goodness isn’t limited to pregnancy either, have a looksie at the General Benefits:

  • Has been used for centuries as a herbel remedy to increase fertility
  • Full of vitamins and minerals and plant compounds that help to detoxify the body
  • Has been shown to reduce menstrual cramps (Winner right here!)
  • Can help to strengthen your immune system.
  • Help to stimulate blood circulation.

And for  all of Men-Kind….

  • It’s a ‘nourishing reproductive tonic’ Which I presume means it helps your little swimmers swim
  • Can help with Diarrhoea. (And let’s face it, after a night out with the ‘lads’ ending in some form of Calzone / Curry combo… this isn’t as infrequent as you’d hope!)

I bought mine from Holland and Barrett for less than £2. The flavour is really pleasant and I think I will definitely continue to drink this once I have had the baby – I’ve been quite big on green teas and fruity teas for the past year or so, and this will make a tasty addition!

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Me Me Me – Charlotte Crosby http://www.positivelyashley.co.uk/me-me-me/ Mon, 18 Jul 2016 21:42:29 +0000 http://www.positivelyashley.co.uk/?p=212 So let’s just talk about guilty pleasures… mine is Geordie Shore. It wasn’t always, I mean when my sister used to tell me she needed to record it when she came to my house I was disgusted at her. Who wants to sit and watch a group of girls and boys get drunk and bonk?…

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So let’s just talk about guilty pleasures… mine is Geordie Shore.

It wasn’t always, I mean when my sister used to tell me she needed to record it when she came to my house I was disgusted at her. Who wants to sit and watch a group of girls and boys get drunk and bonk? What is the actual point.

Then I split up with my ex and moved back home. One night I was sat in the living room and Geordie Shore was on tv… I grumbled, pretended I wasn’t watching but I realised I quite liked it when Shannon went to bed and I still didn’t turn over the channel. I mean, I couldn’t not know if the dark haired girl was going to get with the annoying blonde bloke. And that was the start of the addiction… I went back to rewatch them all and fell a little bit in love with a few of the characters… Charlotte Crosby being one of them. (I mean, can we take a moment to appreciate how beautiful she actually is?!)

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So this weekend my boyfriend was on split shifts all day on the Saturday and the Sunday and whilst I was doing the boring grocery shop I spotted Charlottes autobiography… “Why not” I thought. I could read it on the bus to work whilst my mum is on holiday (as I usually phone her daily)

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However what I did was open the book to read a chapter whilst I had a facemask on… And I could not put it back down. It made me laugh, my heart pang in some places and made me fall a little bit more in love with the amazing business woman that is Charlotte Crosby. From the girl who had to steal her own car back from her pop to the woman who has multiple business ventures under a perfectly designed nostalgia sleeve – I read the book from start to finish in about 5 hours in total. I wont give too much away as I wholeheartedly believe that everybody should read this witty and positively “Laugh out Loud” biography. You will not regret it!

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Escape Room http://www.positivelyashley.co.uk/escape-rooms/ Mon, 04 Jul 2016 14:14:09 +0000 http://www.positivelyashley.co.uk/?p=204 Last week I was super excited to be invited to review Escape Rooms in Manchester. In my pregnant state there isn’t much I have been able to do socially except for go for meals or to the cinema, so this seemed like something a little bit different both myself and my partner could enjoy.  I…

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Last week I was super excited to be invited to review Escape Rooms in Manchester. In my pregnant state there isn’t much I have been able to do socially except for go for meals or to the cinema, so this seemed like something a little bit different both myself and my partner could enjoy.  I literally couldn’t wait!

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The concept of Escape Rooms for those who aren’t aware is that you are in a situation where you are locked in a room, and you have to hunt for clues to solve to essentially free yourself. You have 60 minutes to complete the task and there are lots of different themed rooms from haunted hotel’s, to prison break – And a lovely slaughter room for those who don’t mind a bit of gore. Each room has a different difficulty rating so if you don’t feel particularly like Sherlock Holmes that day you can request to be put in a lower difficulty room.

I went along to this event with my friend Karina from Mum’s the Nerd and our partners.  There was quite a few other bloggers at the event and the 4 of us was teamed with another two lovely ladies and given what is considered the hardest room… Room 13.  The back story to this room is that we are all going on holiday together and whilst driving down a country lane trying to find the hotel a girl appears in the road and we ‘hit her’ – Except when we get out of the car to find her she has disappeared. When we get to the hotel it is empty apart from our party and we are all given room 13 to stay in. We go up to the room and we hear a giggle in the room…It’s the little girl!! When we try to go to the receptionist we find all the doors are locked and the reception clerk disappeared with a trail of blood behind the desk. We have top go back to the room to find our way out of the hotel!

The back story is given to you by a member of staff, and you are told you can have a couple of clues throughout if needed. Personally I was so excited about being given this room. Anybody who knows me knows how much I love horror movies and anything related to them so I couldn’t have been put in a more appropriate room. It also made me laugh even more because my friend absolutely loathes horror… So when we was being given the back story I could see that she was nervous in case there was actors and someone popped up.

Unfortunately – as a group we tended to over complicate a lot of the clues so we used up all of our free hints and didn’t make it out on time – We was missing our final clue! But it was so much fun so I wasn’t too disheartened. Plus we got to take a fun photo at the end.

I would most definitely do this again, and recommend for friends / family to attend. There is a bar area too so I’d say it would be a perfect place to start an evening out on a fun night and then go on for drinks or for corporate “team bonding” events. I will most definitely be recommending this in our next employee engagement meetings at work!

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Lush… http://www.positivelyashley.co.uk/lush/ Thu, 23 Jun 2016 21:44:37 +0000 http://www.positivelyashley.co.uk/?p=196 Lush… what does it mean to you? To me it was a word that made my skin crawl to describe something that was nice.  When I first met my spud he used it to describe to his meals… “I’m going to take you to Akbars, the food there is Lush”… Thankfully this is a habit…

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Lush… what does it mean to you? To me it was a word that made my skin crawl to describe something that was nice.  When I first met my spud he used it to describe to his meals… “I’m going to take you to Akbars, the food there is Lush”… Thankfully this is a habit he has since grown out of.

I recently met up with my friend for some lunch and shopping in Manchester.  It was so nice seeing her as we’ve both been so sidetracked trying to ‘adult’ (buying houses, being pregnant) that aside from a few messages catch ups have been waylaid. I learnt that day what lush meant to her…. BATH BOMBS.

As I waddled round the Arndale centre she almost squealed when she saw the shop.  The first thing I noticed what the smell, and I have to admit it smelt amazing.  It didn’t take too much convincing for me to go inside.

Once inside I was met with bright colours and soaps galore. So many bath bombs in so many shapes and sizes.  Where do you even start?!?! Karina from Mum’s the Nerd knew… she picked up a variety of powdery orbs and shoved them under my nose.. ‘smell this’ ‘This is my favourite’ ‘This is great for your skin’ I must admit… I was a bit overwhelmed. There is so much choice and they all do smell fantastic. There are assistants doing demos all over the store, in one section of the store a lady was receiving a hand massage and I was slightly jealous of this.  As a treat, Karina told me choose one as she couldn’t accept I had never had a “Lush Bath” before.  After smelling so many it got to a point everything smelt the same I chose my bomb and couldn’t wait to try it…. Yuzu and Cocoa bubbleroon (You know, because it’s shaped like a macaroon but gives you bubbles in your bath!) Clever!

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So my first impression, I wasn’t overly keen on the fact it looked like I was having a soak in a bath full of pee. I’m certain this is dependant on the bomb you choose but in terms of first impressions I wasn’t overly keen on this factor. I was half expecting it to be powdery  in the bath however once dissolved it felt quite nice. It had a lovely smell and I must admit once I got over the colour I was quite relaxed in my luminous bath.

After about an hour of pure relaxation I got out of the bath feeling all smooth like a dolphin. Pregnancy has been leaving my skin quite dry but this soak definitely added some moisture back into my old weary self.

So, before I tried Lush I thought it was overpriced for what it was, all ‘smelt the same’ and a bit of a waste of money. However after trying, my skin felt better, there are so many different scents to suit everybody. Sweet, subtle, strong. Whatever you want. Just don’t spend too long sniffing different ones.

Would I use Lush products again?? Yes but I’d probably get a nicer colour so I don’t feel like I am sitting in a pool of pee!

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